Morgan Woodward & the ladies from Her Campus have written about the pros and cons of dating a frat guy. So it’s only fair that they admit a few pros and cons of being a brother’s object of affection.
Enter Bridget Sandorford, a full-time student and part-time chef. In response to Morgan and Her Campus, Bridget decided to provide her perspective on dating a Sorority Girl…
Pro: She gets that you have other obligations. She has events to attend and understands that you, as a brother, have matching commitments. You’ll likely blame each other for events that you miss, anyway, so try to be nice about it.
Con: Kiss privacy buh-bye. Girls seek comfort through sharing experiences; men seek comfort through fixing problems or pretending they don’t exist. I’m not being sexist and if you think I am, take it up with Deborah Tannen, author of You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation.
Eve had a lump removed from her breast. Shortly after the operation, talking to her sister, she said that she found it upsetting to have been cut into, and . . . that [the] seam [had] changed the contour of her breast. Her sister said, “I know. When I had my operation, I felt the same way.” But when she told her husband, he said, “You can have plastic surgery to cover up the scar and restore the shape of your breast.”
Eve had been comforted by her sister . . . but she was not comforted by Mark’s comment. “Why are you telling me to have plastic surgery?”
Mark was hurt and puzzled. “Because you were saying you were upset about the way it looked.”
The point is this: most girls share experiences to connect with each other. That means, depending on the individual girl, your secrets and private life might not be secret for very long.
The difference between dating Greek and not? Big Sister (read: every sister in her house) will always be watching and with an intensity unmatched by any girl or girls outside of a sorority. And because by dating a sister you’re dating the entire sorority, there are a lot of girls who know about that weird noise you make. You know the one. 
Pro: You have mutual friends. Dating outside the Greek system could mean that you might have nothing in common with her friends (even that you’ll never see them, which might not be a bad thing). Dating a sister means that you probably already have mutual friends, which can strengthen the relationship. (This could be listed as a con, too, but that would be too easy.)
Con: She still goes to mixers with fraternities that aren’t yours. Even if a sister has the best of intentions, brothers from other frats may not. They’re not there to spark invigorating conversations about the plight of gray wolves or the ethnic tensions in Sudan. They’re looking for the same things you look for at mixers (when you were single, of course). That still goes if the sister they’re looking at is taken.
Pro: Free breakfast and lunch at the Sorority House. Waking up on Saturday morning is usually much different than waking up at a sorority. What’s the difference? The sorority’s willingness to provide you with an amazing buffet breakfast to start your day off right!
Con: You become a sounding board for the entire sorority house. If a sister comes home after an unfortunate situation with her boy friend, be prepared to take the wrap for men everywhere. In addition to playing the scapegoat, you’ll have to endure hours of sorority gossip, learning things no man should ever know.
With that being said, I think the PROs of dating a sorority girl outweigh the CONs – What do YOU think?…let us know with your comments below.
If you’re currently dating a sorority girl, Thank your lucky stars…some guys aren’t so lucky…(see below)
Bridget’s Bio: Aside from school and working part-time as an Assistant Chef, Bridget Sandorford is the resident Culinary Schools blogger where recently she’s been researching international culinary schools as well as Japanese culinary colleges. She lives just outside of Charleston, South Carolina.
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